The struggle of a fine girl living in Lagos…

So I’m speaking on behalf of the association of fine girls that reside in Lagos (Is there even anything like that?). I sort of think I’m qualified to do so.

What do you think?

Especially if you do not have a car yet, it is literally a lot of work to walk on the busy streets of Lagos. Guys, you don’t know what you enjoy when you just walk comfortably on the street. Well, except girls also disturb fine guys which I doubt because most of us would not be so unruly. Okay, some girls are but whatever the case, our struggle is realer than yours. lol. From my observation, here is a nit bit of what we have to go through every day.

People think they have the license to touch you

If you have to go to Yaba or Lagos Island market, then you don’t only have to be prepared financially but mentally and emotionally as well because those boys can drive you crRaZy. As you walk in their midst, different people touch you at the same time (some of them might have just peed without washing their hands for crying out loud!). ‘Fine girl’, ‘nne imaka’ ‘Baby oku’ and if you dare tell them to stop, then you have just invited insults; ‘you think say na only you fine’, ‘comot make I see road jor’ ‘artificial yellow pawpaw’. Sometimes, they can be very vulgar. Now, imagine if you have to pass Yaba market on your way to work every day.

They expect you to show appreciation to them

First let me ask you, are you God that created me? (If only they will read this post) If we say thank you to every single person that shouts ‘fine girl’ on the road then we will still be saying thank you in our sleep. Someone shouts form nowhere ‘Baby you too fine’. How do I know you are talking to me?  Are there not a lot of fine girls on the street? Even if I know nko is it by force to say thank you. Why can't just a smile do? The next thing you will hear is ‘you cannot even say thank you, someone is appreciating your beauty, bla bla bla’.

Constant stares/ People don’t know when to walk up to you

I think we are all used to this one by now but it can still be embarrassing when you are walking with someone or a group of people you have high regard for and people just keep looking at you.

Some people can really be insensitive and unreasonable. How can you walk up to me to say ‘I would like us to be friends’ when you see me with another dude? Come on, this is unacceptable and highly disrespectful. If you see any girl you are attracted to having a conversation with another guy, please, please it is rude for you to walk up to her and say ‘I will like to know you more’ or what do they say sef.  It’s so bad that sometimes, when you are walking with someone, one oga will stop his car and want to start talking to you.  Ah ah bros! The worst is when you are taking a stroll with your mum and a guy tries to start a conversation with you. You just want to scream and say’ ‘This is my mum for goodness sake! Show some respect’

Perhaps I should start a campaign called ‘The fight against the mistreatment of fine girls, enough is enough!’ lol.  I guess this is the price we have to pay and we can’t complain abi? The price is far better than saying ‘hello form the other side’ lol. In my next life I absolutely want to come out as a finer girl biko mistreatment or no mistreatment. Yes, there are perks a fine girl living in Lagos enjoys as well. I might consider sharing. If you have had any funny experience, please feel free to share at the comment section.

I would have loved to write about the challenges fine boys living in Lagos face but I don’t really know much. I guess I will find a fine boy who could do that.

Hmm…nice idea! Fine boy + fine girl toh bad. 

Let the search begin!

Do you wanna be happy?

 I just recently stumbled into Kirk Franklin’s ‘Wanna Be Happy’ song and I’ve been wondering where I have been all this while because the song was released sometime in September, 2015. I guess I’ve been listening to Justin Beiber lol. We have to admit that the guy is dope!

Anyway, while I listened to the song, in my mind I said of course I want to be happy but these circumstances of life won’t let someone be great lol.  A part of the song said ‘…cry yourself to sleep, shout and raise your hand, it won’t change a thing child until you understand…’

See, something you might not know about me is that I can worry for Africa. It might not show but I worry a lot and Kirk Franklin is now telling me that my tears and worry don’t matter, Imagine! Not like I’ve not heard it before but sometimes, no matter how many times you’ve heard a thing, it doesn’t completely sink in until you advice yourself. Abi?

So I started thinking; I really have nothing to lose by not disturbing myself o. I don’t mean one should be lazy or anything but for situations that are totally beyond my control, I have decided not to be bothered. For example, what can I possibly do about the depreciation of the Naira which is affecting virtually everything? Nothing, well except to support the #BuyNaijaToGrowTheNaira campaign. But you get what I mean.

If I worry, it doesn’t change what is on ground, if I don’t worry at least even if nothing changes, I’m happy and that state of happiness is just so cool. I realised that if I continue this way, I will live most of my youthful life worrying over one thing or the other then deal with hypertension when I’m older. God forbid! Remember JAMB was once our problem in life. Haha. It shows that this too shall pass.

Yes, I want to be happy and I will be happy. Happiness is a choice finally finally. Omo, this life is just one; we need to make the most of it. All these gra gra will take us nowhere.

My new philosophy is to take one day at a time, laugh more, do my best and leave the rest to God. Shikena!

This song has been on repeat since I discovered it. God bless you, Kirk.

So I also ask you…do you wanna be happy?

No one would take the decisions of life for you; decide to be happy no matter what. Don’t let the circumstances of life control you, be the one to call the shots. Choose happiness!

Much love!

Uncertainties...

Hi People!

So I decided that I have to resurrect my blog. Mehn, it’s been years. It feels like I don’t own this blog anymore. Well, it’s still mine and I’m happy I can pop in once in a while. I’m hoping to be more consistent here but then again I’m not making any promises (Is someone trying to run away from commitments? lol)

So let’s talk about uncertainties. 

Recently, a lot of things have been happening around me. A lady, who woke up happy, and probably updated ‘rise and grind’ on one of her social media pages went to work but unexpectedly returned home early. Why? She lost her job the same day. Very sad.  But such unfortunate events happen to people very often. Like they say; ‘life happens’.

Funny thing is when things like this happen, that’s when those of us not affected remember to put up a picture on Instagram and caption it “God, forgive me if I asked more than I thanked you”. 

Don’t get me wrong, it’s a good thing to be thankful but I ask; what if you were the person affected? What if ‘life happens’ to you? What would your reaction be like? Would you still thank God, would you feel like the whole world has crumbled, would you be suicidal? Right now, I hear some of my sprit filled brothers and sisters saying: “I cannot be fired” “I am a child of God”. Lol, I really admire your faith but does it mean that everyone who loses something precious to them are not children of God?

We face challenges every day. A lot of people more spiritual than you are have lost things very precious to them and it’s not about how spiritual or close to God anyone is. Losing one’s job is not something anyone prays for. When I thought about how my reaction would be like if I lost my job, hmm I realized that I would have been mad. Mad at myself, mad at God especially and just feel terrible for daaayyyss. Then I thought about it again. God has a purpose for everyone and as we say; God works in mysterious ways. It might just be what you need to take the next major step in your life. I admit it is not an easy thing to handle but again, just like my mum will say; “Sometimes, if you do not lose something, you might not know something better is ahead”.

A lot of people have tied their happiness to material things. Most of us have more faith in these things than we have faith in God. This is the reason why when we lose them we get depressed. I’m glad I realised this now.

So this article is dedicated to those who have lost something precious recently. You probably think the year started awfully. Yes, the world we live in is not perfect, but then again, we have a perfect God. Take one day at a time. Worry less. Pray more. Hope for the best. This might just be a stepping stone for better things to come. Who knows, by the end of the year, you might be thankful you lost that thing.

Happy New Year people! It’s your turn for good things!